Dealing with job loss or death of a loved one? Maybe it’s time to get out and try something new

Monday, September 27, 2010 9:32

By Ellen Brown

Lately, I’ve been hankering to try something new. To experiment. To explore. To get out more. This all makes perfect sense since I haven’t had much time or energy to play in the past year, a year that began with the slow decline and death of my father-in-law last August and ended with the passing of my mom in July.

During that time, I didn’t have much energy or a whole lot of time to get out and have fun.  But today, while I am still grieving my losses, I’ve lately noticed a stirring within to try something new. And it feels kind of exciting. Like the way it felt years ago in the fall, when school started, and the air smelled crisp and full of possibilities.

Thankfully, life is serendipitous, so when I started thinking about how it would be nice to get out more, a friend of mine told me about a new book club that’s forming next month. I also heard about a study group that’s centered around the spiritual teachings of Eckhart Tolle and his book, the Power of Now. Though my husband and I have only attended the group a few times, we already feel at home there.

I don’t pretend to be “over” the loss of my loved ones, and I still carry plenty of Kleenex for those weepy moments that seem to spring out of nowhere, when I hear a sad song or smell a familiar scent of perfume that reminds me of my mom. But I’m feeling more hopeful and energetic. And ready to try something new. And for that I’m grateful.

How about YOU? Have you found it helpful to try something new when you’re dealing with loss?

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Ellen Brown is a certified professional coach based in Cleveland, OH.

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6 Responses to “Dealing with job loss or death of a loved one? Maybe it’s time to get out and try something new”

  1. Marjorie Clayman (@RLMadMan) says:

    September 27th, 2010 at 9:47 am

    this is a brave and beautiful post – I was directed here by SteinbrecherInc.

    I know the sensation you speak of. I had some things happen in my life that caused me to just kind of live life and get through it. Over the last couple of years, I’ve been overwhelmed with the desire to try new things, go new places, and really live. It’s a great rush of renewal after going through a hard time.

    Thanks for sharing!

  2. Camille Gaines says:

    September 29th, 2010 at 1:03 pm

    I love this! I recently began Tae Kwon Do in my early forties. It just felt wonderful that I was doing something new and different and took the focus off of my current problems. Thanks for sharing…

  3. Ellen Brown says:

    September 29th, 2010 at 2:32 pm

    Thanks so much for your kind words, Marjorie! I think what you’re experiencing is such a natural reaction. I’m glad you’re getting out there and experiencing life, anew!

  4. Ellen Brown says:

    September 29th, 2010 at 2:34 pm

    That is great, Camille. It is so much fun to try new things; as you mentioned, it can be a wonderful distraction and a real confidence builder, too!

  5. Jenn @futurejennd says:

    September 30th, 2010 at 10:41 am

    Inspiring post, Ellen. You described perfectly that feeling of trying something new or something you thought you couldn’t after a loss. It’s a complete rush and does give you an escape for a bit. Thank you for sharing.

  6. Ellen Brown says:

    September 30th, 2010 at 12:37 pm

    Thanks, Jenn. What you say is so true — a rush, indeed!

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